The third thing for a guru in Sahaja Yoga has to do, is to develop detachment. Gradually you do develop it, because you find that unless and until you develop that detachment, you are not receiving vibrations in full way. All kinds of detachments have to be developed, means your priorities change. Once your attention gets fixed up with your Spirit, the catch or the hold on things which are of no importance starts reducing by itself. For example, you have a father, you have a mother, you have a sister, this is a bigger problem in India. Here you are over-detached, but in India people are very much involved in their own children, in their own: 'This is my son', and others are all orphans. Only your sons are the real children: your daughter, your sons. 'My daughter', 'I must do this for my son, for my father, mother' here also. Two types of attachments are there, one through mohah, through involvement into them; that you want to do this for them and that for them, and give all the property to them, insurance for them, every sort of thing. And another could be, the way we have here, that you hate your mother, you hate your father, you hate everyone. Both things are just the same.
So a detachment must be developed. The detachment is that you are your father, you are your mother, you are everything, your Spirit is everything to you. You have to enjoy only your Spirit, as everything. Then the detachment comes from there, and then you really do good to them by detaching, because you see the complete vision about them and about what is to be done. For example, people have also attachments to certain crazes. Human beings always become crazy after something, I mean it can be anything. One has to understand there should be only one craze: is to be settled absolutely into your Spirit. All other crazes will disappear, because thats the greatest joy-giving thing, that's the most nourishing thing, that's the most beautiful thing. So the, all the other things fall off, you enjoy only that which is the source of all enjoyments.
So you get yourself attached to your Spirit: detachment starts working. Sometimes detachment is taken as a license for becoming dry to others, which is absurd. This is only human quality also: make everything ugly, whatever is beautiful. Actually, a person who is detached is the most beautiful person, is the extremely loving person, he's love. Look at the flowers, they are detached. They are dying, tomorrow they are not going to live, but every minute they live, they are emitting fragrance to you. The trees are not attached to anything, they will die tomorrow, doesnt matter; but anybody who comes to them, they give shadow, they give fruits.
Attachment means death of love, complete death of love is attachment. For example, in a tree, say, the sap rises, goes to all the leaves, goes to all the necessary parts, all the flowers, all the fruits, and goes back to the Mother Earth. He is not attached to anyone. Supposing the sap goes and gets attached into one fruit. What will happen? The tree will die, and the fruit will die. Detachment gives you the movement of your love, circulation of it.
For things now, things have no value unless and until there are emotions behind it. Now for example, a sari, this one I am wearing today, was bought for Guru day, Guru Purnima, but they had no sari. The other day they wanted to have a sari for Puja, so I said: 'All right, use this.' But I wore it again today, just to say that this was bought with that emotion that on a Guru day, Mother would like to wear something of a lighter shade: white, the pure color of silk, its complete detachment. But in white all the colors are mixed, then only it becomes white. In such a balance and unity it is, should be, that you become white, and whiter than snow.
Detachment is purity, is innocence. Innocence is such a light, I tell you, light that really blinds you to all that is filthy. You wouldnt even know that a person has come with bad intentions. You look at the person, you see, say somebody comes to you, you'll say: 'Oh, come along, what do you want?' You'll offer him tea and all that, and he'll say: 'I have come to rob you.' 'All right, rob me if you want to, its all right.' He may not at all rob you! That is what is innocence, which one can develop only through detachment. Detachment is of the attention. Do not allow your attention to get involved into something too much, even rituals of anything. ... If some mistakes are committed, what does it matter? If you see on the abstract plane, it's love. This is just a step forward. Like somebody ran very fast and fell down before reaching me, and he said: 'Mother, sorry I fell down before reaching You, I should have not done that. But see how I prostrated before You!' Its complete poetry, detachment.
So one has to develop that detachment to be a guru, and that detachment doesnt mean sanyas or anything like that. Yes, sometimes one has to wear those dresses to announce, because if you have to do lot of work in a short time, then you have to take such intensive behavior, like Christ, we can say, Adi Shankaracharya. All these people had a very, very short life, and in that short life they had to achieve such a tremendous task that they had to actually take a military uniform, just to avoid problems, not to impress others. Now-a-days people wear that dress just to impress others that they are detached, and do just the thing opposite of it.
So we understand that first, one is not to harm anyone, ahimsa, not to kill anyone. That doesnt mean that you shouldn't eat meat and fish and all that - thats all nonsense. Of course I mean, you should not hanker after food, no doubt about it. 'You dont kill anyone' means you do not kill a human being: 'Thou shall not kill'. So first thing is not to harm anyone. Second is to know that you have found the truth and give the testimony of the truth. Third is the detachment, the way I have told you about detachment: not to get attached to any one person because he's a relation or a something, but develop a universal feeling. And also not to hate anyone: that is even worse, thats a kind of a worse type of attachment. This word should go away from the mouth of all the Sahaja Yogis: 'I hate'. It is called as a dandak, is the Statute. You cannot hate anyone. Even rakshasas, you better not hate them, give them a chance.
Now the fourth thing, the fourth Statute of the Lord is to lead a moral life. These Statutes were given by all the Gurus, take them from Socrates onward, Moses, Abraham, Dattatreya, Janaka, up to, say, Nanak, Mohammed Sahib, and take up to the point where it was only about a hundred years back you can say, at the most, was Sai Nath. All of them have said that you have to lead a moral life. None of them have said that you do not get married, that you do not talk to your wife, that you have no relationship with your wife; all this is nonsensical. Lead a moral life. When you are young, not married, keep your eyes on the ground; Mother Earth gives you that innocence by which you develop that principle within you, is very important principle. Its such a pure principle, it really helps the society to develop its dignity. Now think, in a society where you do not know who is your sister, who is your brother, who is your mother, what complications it can create; what confusion, what unhappiness. It is one of the most essential things for human beings, to be moral. For animals it is not necessary.
Most of the confusions and problems, specially in the Western life, have come because they have thrown morality in the sea, and to accept morality as the very basis of society, its very difficult for them, its a complete reversion. But you have to do it, you have to turn the whole wheel back. So, many things were done in the beginning of the society to establish this pure relationship. There are laws which act, as if there are laws of, chemical laws are there, there are physical laws are there, in physics and chemistry. Indeed, there are human laws which one should understand. The relationships between each other, the sublimity of their relationship, the purity of their relationship must be understood, and then only you can have a very, very happy married life, which is the basis.
'Thou shall not commit adultery.' But Christ has said - perhaps He knew the modern people as they would be using their brains for this - He said: 'Thou shalt not have adulterous eyes.' What a vision, in those days to think; I mean, even I could not understand it when I was in India. After only coming here I could see that, what did it mean. Its a possession on the eyes, possession. It's a joyless, useless behavior, its tiring. Attention is frittered away completely; there's no dignity. Eyes should be steady. When you look at somebody steadily you should know that you have got Sahaja Yoga in you; with love, with respect, with dignity. Not staring at people and just playing into the hands of these possessions. The whole society is possessed. All the satanic forces have been let loose, I think, and the way people are possessed, they cannot see through these things. And they are supposed to be Christians! Attention is to be looked after. Thats the most important thing, because attention is the one which is going to be enlightened.
So we have to know what morality is. Let people laugh at us, let them say that: 'These are goodie-goodies', or this sort of thing. We are! We are proud of it. We are not ashamed of being righteous people. This is a very important part of righteousness. Those who do not follow this will lose their vibrations very fast.
Then, for a guru, he should not accumulate things, he should not have possessions, much possessions with him. If he has possessions, they should be just for giving away. A guru must give away his possessions. He should not have stamp collection, and all kinds of collections that people go on. Whatever things are useful, beautiful, which give happiness and joy to others, to their eyes: such things must be collected, such things which give the symbol to his life. Very symbolic things he should have, which suggest that he is a dharmic person. He should not have things which are symbolic of adharmikta, of irreligious life. Everything that he has or he wears, or he shows, should be representative of his dharmikta.
I dont know what was the situation here [London], but in India, when we were young, we were not allowed to listen to all kinds of music, not allowed, just not allowed. Not to see all kinds of filthy things and filthy documentaries and things, not allowed. Anything that is impure, giving bad vibrations should not be possessed, and even a, whatever you have, you should think whom you can give this. So it means you should have possessions to express your generosity. Sahaja Yogi has to be generous like the sea. A miserly Sahaja Yogi, I cannot think of that, it is like mixing of darkness with light. Miserliness is not allowed in Sahaja Yoga. Anybody whose mind goes: 'How much I can save money, or save my labour'; how? There are many labor-saving devices also, and money-saving devices. Or cheating others, or making money out of certain few things here and there: all such things are against Sahaja Yoga, they will pull you down. Enjoy your generosity! How many times I must have told you about generosity.
I remember once I wanted to give a sari that I had from abroad, you see, because in India people like that kind of a sari very much; though I mean, I dont understand why they like it, nylon sort of thing. And a lady said that: 'I havent got any sari from outside and I would like to have one imported sari.' And I had only one left with me, because I am quite good at giving away. So I told one of my niece-in-laws, I said: 'I want to give away this sari to her. On a holy day we can give it to elders, so I'll give it.'
She said: 'You have only one left now, why do you want to give away? You have given away all you had." I said: 'Now, I feel like giving. I'll give away. And we were discussing this in the kitchen, you see, and I said: '' Why do you tell me? I am not going to take your advice on this point.' And at that time the bell rang and a gentleman came. He had brought three saris for me from Africa, and one of them was exactly the same as the one I had. Because I had given some silk saris to this lady when she was going to Africa, she thought she should send Me some saris, so she sent. You are just standing in the center, from one door it comes and at the other door it goes. Its nice to see all that movement, its very interesting.
Apart from that, the way you give it, you see, the emotional side of it is so beautiful, you cant imagine. I met a lady after, say, twenty years of her married life, in London suddenly, and she said: 'Oh, what a coincidence!' I said: 'Why? 'You see, I'm wearing the same pearl necklace you had given me on my wedding day, today, and I should meet you! I mean, the whole thing, the whole drama changed, you know, that meeting. I mean it was something, nothing so great. It is how you give even a small thing, its the greatest art of giving, one has to learn in Sahaja Yoga. Give up the mundane type of things, you see, like if you go to somebody's birthday, you send a card: 'Thank you very much.' Make it a more deeper, significant thing. Let us see how you develop your symbols of love.
And when you'll have these things of vibrations and then you'll give it to a Sahaja Yogi, he will know what it is. Never lack in generosity, specially amongst Sahaja Yogis. Gradually you'll be amazed how through small things you win over, as if the vibrations flow through those things and work out on those people.
Then for a Sahaja Yogi it is important to use things which are more natural in their character; to give up artificialities, to be more natural. I dont say that you go and take out the roots and eat them, or you can eat the fish raw, I dont mean that. When going too far with things, always you must avoid. But try to lead a life which is more natural; natural, in the sense that people know that there is no vanity about you. Or some people can be the other way round, you see, they will dress up like a tramp just to attract more attention. I mean they can be both ways, you see. When I find some of the people, you see, coloring their hair and all that.
So you have to be natural person, very natural in your behavior. It can mean anything absurd also to some people who do not use their wisdom. Wisdom is very important in Sahaja Yoga, that one has to keep intact all the time. 'Natural' means you must wear natural dresses which are suitable to you. For example, in this climate there is no need for you to wear dress like Rama used to wear. He would not wear anything on top, you see. There is no need. You have to wear the dress to whatever country you belong, whatever suits you for the occasion. Whatever you think is dignified and good, which speaks for your more elegance and your personality. Whatever suits you, you should wear, not like all the people wearing that Moss Brothers dress, in the grey suit, horrible-looking, and absolutely making clowns out of them. No clownish things are necessary, no dandy stuff is necessary: simple, beautiful dresses should be worn, which give you dignity.
Actually in the East, people believe that God has given you a beautiful body, and it is to be adorned with the beauty of what human beings have created, just to respect it, just to worship your body. For example now in India people wear, women wear their saris. The saris are expressive of their moods of these women and of expression of their worship of their body, because you must respect your body. Dresses should be such that should be for utility as well as dignity. There is no need to have uniform clothes for Sahaja Yoga at all, you see, I do not like it. There should be variety, as the nature is. Everyone should look a different person. For a puja and all that you may wear something similar, doesn't matter, where your attention need not be on the variety, but outside, you should be a normal person. You are all householders, nobody has to announce something. Even you people, I do not tell you that you put on your red mark while walking on the street, because you should be like normal people, not to be pointed out. You need not be absurdly dressed or funnily dressed; in a normal way as others wear. To be normal is very important in Sahaja Yoga.
Then we have to know that Sahaja Yogis have to get over all kinds of discrimination and identifications according to races, color or different religions into you are born. Because you are born as a Christian, you do not belong to a church. You were not born in a church, thank God, otherwise all the spirits there would capture you immediately. But these identifications will linger on. To accept anything new, you are to be reborn, and you are reborn now. Now you are dharmatita - means you need not follow any particular type of religion. You are open to all the religions, and all the essence of religions you have to take. You are not to denounce any religion any time, to insult any religion any time, or to insult any religious Incarnation at any time: its sin, it is a great sin in Sahaja Yoga; any one of them, and you know who they are.
There should be no racial understanding of oneself. You could have been a Chinese or you could have been a Negro, you could have been anything. As long as we are all human beings, we should know that we laugh the same way, we smile the same way, we hold the same way. This is all conditioned in our mind of this society that you, some are untouchables, some are touchables: this is in our Indian community - horrible people. Brahminism of India has ruined India completely, and you learn from them. For example, who was Vyasa, the one who wrote Gita? Who was he? He was illegitimate son of a fisherwoman. That's why deliberately he was born like that. All these Brahmins who read Gita, tell them who was Vyasa? Brahmins are those who are realized souls, and for realized souls there's nothing like all these nonsensical things, like where are you born, in what caste and community you are born.
With all education and everything in the West, you find this nonsense of racialism; I just can't understand. If somebody is fair or dark, after all God has to make variety, in color, in every way. Who told you that you are the most handsome people going round? Maybe for some of the markets here, or maybe in the Hollywood it may fit in; but in the kingdom of God all these so-called handsome people will be denied entry; marrying seven husbands and all sorts of things. They will be all put in hell.
The beauty is of the heart, not of the face, and that shows and shines. I mean, people are a little bit aware of it, that's why they go and tan their faces. I dont know. They are quite aware that it is too much showing off we are doing. But to have vanity, to have such absurd ideas! Some people like red hair, some like black hair, some like this; I mean, there have to be different types of hair. And why do you like a particular type of hair? This I cant understand. There's nothing like 'like' and 'dislike', whatever God has created is all beautiful. Who are you to judge whether 'I like this' and 'I like that?', who is this 'I'? Who likes is Mr. Ego, which is being pampered by this society, which teaches you how to smoke cigars and how to have your lager, morning till evening.
All this training and all this conditioning has to be thrown away, just like filth, and see that God has created all of you as His own children. Its such a beautiful thing! Why do you want to make it ugly with these ugly ideas? All this ugliness of 'I like' and 'I dislike are nonsensical. Only there should be one word: 'I love'. Forget everything. There's no need to remember what British did to Indians and what Germans did to Jews: forget it. Those people who did anything are dead and finished; we are different people, we are different people. We are saints. This is for your Statutes, I have told you, which you have to imbibe.
Guru Puja 1980: Statutes of the Lord