Friendship

Friendship is such that you could share your secrets, you could share your problems. You do that with me. And why not with each other? It’s a question of understanding that Sahaja Yogis are all really friends to each other. I think relationship of friendship is even higher than any other relationship we could think of, because there is nothing to be gained out of our friendship. It never ceases and you just enjoy the friendship, that’s all. Then you can pull each other’s legs, sometimes. You could be little joking with another person, making fun of another person. It’s all right, it’s friendship. But this is the purest form of understanding our relationships with each other. And a friend is the one who is always, for no rhyme and reason, concerned about his friend. Before Sahaja Yoga, you could have only one friend or at the most two. Three meant a crowd, cannot have three persons as your friends. But in Sahaja Yoga we are all friends, pure friendship. Friendship of a very beautiful nature - that you enjoy the joy of another person. In vibrations you do. If you feel the vibrations of another Sahaja Yogi, you really enjoy. ...

I have to tell you that we have to be friends. We have to share, enjoy sharing. There is no seriousness about it. How can you be serious with your friend? Just relaxed enjoying each other’s company. Even if you have to argue - argue, doesn’t matter. Even if you have a different view, it’s all right. But, you should not try to impose yourself on your friend, nor your friend should try to impose. But try to understand each other. That’s how we are going to learn such a lot. You have to learn such a lot from each other. For example, I learnt so much from French you’ll be surprised. Learnt lot of things from French, the way they have their art, their ideas of art, their music, their culture. Lots of things to be learnt. So, you have friends in India, you have friends everywhere, you have friends now in South America. Everywhere you have friends. ...

So, this friendship, just think of it, in this world we have thousands and thousands of friends everywhere we go. And this is what we have to know within ourselves that we have to be ourselves very, very friendly type, very friendly. There is an openness between one friend and another friend. There is no closeness. There is no tension. There is no formality. And, reliance. So much so that you can talk to them about what you want, what is your need and what problems you have.

I hope you understand that love means complete freedom to yourself and to others. If you love someone, then there is complete freedom and understanding. But this love has to be very, very pure. Complete understanding. You have to feel that friendship. And, you will feel very proud that you have so many friends. And real friends! You have so many friends who are real friends. You will be so very - feeling a thing as if you are a great personality that you have so many friends in this world. You are not alone.

Imagine before this what we had, so many saints, so many great souls were born and they were treated like singular people and tortured, killed, poisoned. They were alone. But you are not. You are all - are friends to each other and the greatest friend you have is the Divine power, which is looking after you and doing everything for you. If you have that kind of a relaxed, beautiful alertness within you, you are going to enjoy life. You are going to enjoy Sahaja Yoga and you are going to get many, many more people in Sahaja Yoga.

H.H.Shri Mataji Nirmala Devi, extracts from Shri Devi Puja, France, 1989-0709